Big Big Love: a Sex and Relationship Guide for People of Size

Getting Undressed Without Bracing for Judgment

Plenty of people of size dread the moment the lights come on. Wondering what a partner will notice first can crowd out everything else. This book takes that anxiety on directly, starting with the mental work of feeling at ease in your own skin before anyone else is involved.

Dating, Sex Toys, and Getting on Top

Practical chapters cover the logistics of dating and intimacy, from how to bring up sex to how to choose and use sex toys. Getting on top receives its own attention, written with bodies of all sizes in mind rather than an assumed ideal. Readers of any gender and sexual orientation are addressed throughout.

Making Peace With Your Belly and Weight Prejudice

Some of the hardest material concerns the belly, along with the prejudice that comes at people for their weight from partners, strangers, and sometimes family. The guide offers ways to handle those moments. It treats body acceptance as something worked on over time, not a switch you flip.

Frank discussion of BDSM and fat admiration sits alongside advice for keeping a long-term relationship steady. The sections on lasting love focus on communication and specifics rather than slogans.

A Freshly Illustrated Update of a 2000 Cult Classic

This edition revises the original with new illustrations and new interviews with body-acceptance activists, health coaches, and psychologists. Hundreds of quotes from fat people and the people who love them, gathered through a survey conducted for this book, run throughout the text. Readers comparing it with other titles on the subject will find the voices here come from that survey and those interviews, not from a single author's experience.